Finding Your Life-Long Match
The need to find love is universal. It’s something we all desire, and it’s something that can bring true happiness and fulfillment to our lives. However, finding a really meaningful relationship, maybe your true love, or even the person you want to spend the rest of your days with, can seem like a daunting task. However, it doesn’t have to be. With a few simple and easy-to-follow principles, you can dramatically increase your chances of finding your life-long match.
Take Chances
Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there and take a chance on love. We’re not talking about being someone you’re not or living a risky lifestyle. We’re saying just get out of your comfort zone a little. Sometimes, the best opportunities come from taking a risk.
It’s ok to be a little scared of going out of your comfort zone. Sometimes you may need to take the initiative and make the first move to ask someone special out on a date. Maybe do something you wouldn’t normally do, like going to a club with some friends that’s not your normal scene, or getting up and singing on karaoke night, or volunteering for an event where you might meet someone new and interesting.
Listen to your inner circle of trusted friends. They’ll give you other great ideas and definitely let you know if you’re over-extending yourself.
Have Faith in Yourself
Believe in yourself and your ability to find love. Trust that you deserve to be loved and that you will find someone special. Understand what makes you special and build on those special traits. Sometimes it helps to write down what makes you special to really internalize those sentiments. Believe it or not, confidence is very attractive to many people, and it can help you take chances without fear of rejection. Believe in yourself and your ability to succeed.
Be Patient
Finding true love takes time. Be patient and don’t settle for anything less than what you deserve. When you are anxious and impatient, others can tell. If you’re cool and in control, people will notice, and it will reflect well on you, maybe leading to that special someone.
Taking chances romantically can be scary, but it’s important to be patient and give things time to develop. Don’t rush into anything and let things unfold naturally. If you get anxious, try too hard, or get bold too soon, you may scare the object of your affection away. If you’re cool and collected, you can communicate your feelings, but do it in a way that lets the other person know you’re being mature and patient.
Good things need time and effort to fully develop. No matter your age or situation in life, if it’s meant to be, then it’s meant to be, and everything will work out in due course. If you feel like maybe you’re rushing things, then listen to your heart. If the other person says, “You’re rushing things,” or something along those lines, they’re saying it for a reason, they like you enough to be honest with you, and they didn’t say that it will never be the right time. Patience truly is a virtue, and they will appreciate your patience.
Know Your Worth and Never Settle
Knowing your worth is critical to finding the right partner. Understand what makes you special. It may take time and a lot of dating before you fully appreciate what you want in your special someone. When you finally realize it, don’t compromise on your standards. Don’t settle for someone just because you think you can’t do better. Believe in yourself and your ability to find the right person. Take chances and shoot for the stars!
In order to do this successfully, you will need to set standards consciously and have the discipline to live by them. Take some time for yourself to determine what you truly want, what you’re willing to accept, and what you absolutely will not accept. It may help to write your thoughts down on paper or in personal journal. Before you go out, maybe review your standards and personal goals.
Finally, be sure to hold yourself accountable for meeting your own standards and upholding your own values. Be true to yourself, and it will all work out in the end.
Be Open-minded and Keep Learning
Sometimes, love comes from unexpected places, be open-minded and be ready for it, don’t limit yourself to certain types of people or certain places where you can find friendship and love. Try changing your routine and visit some different places where you might meet someone new. Keep learning about yourself, your needs, and your wants. The more you know about yourself, the more you will be able to identify the right match for you. The more you learn about your broad set of interests, the more things you can go out and try.
One approach to use is take some time and do a simple writing exercise where you list out everything that is “me” across a broad set of categories: clothes, fashion, books, movies, art, music, places to live, vacations, hobbies, social interests, academic subjects, historical topics, sports, leisure activities, etc. Then, list out all of the kinds of things that are “not me” across those same categories. You may be surprised what you learn about yourself and the ideas you conjure up to explore new things.
In Summary
Finding your life-long match may, at times, seem impossible, but by following this spirit of this relationship advice and the principles outlined above, you can increase your chances of finding true love. Remember to take chances, have some faith and patience, know your worth, never settle, be open-minded, and keep learning about yourself. And most importantly, always believe that true love is out there waiting for you.
